How To Deal with an Oppositional and Defiant Pupil


We all know the type of kid; he or she may be your biggest headache. They are hostile to you and their peers, they don’t seem to listen, and don’t do what they are told. Its almost like they want to upset you. It seems like the more you try to manage them the more they resist….

Sounds Familiar?

Students with oppositional and defiant behavior tend to have a pattern of negative and abrasive interactions with others (teachers and peers).

These kids are special and must be carefully approached...you carefully monitor your own responses. You must never loose it with them…you must master yourself!



Things you may do to make it worse:

• Lose your temper (yelling or using sarcasm tend to escalate oppositional kids)

• Flogging the living daylight out of the child

• Sending the child out of your class

• Engage in the interaction in front other students

• Try to persuade the student or worse…bribe the student

• Threaten the student

• Adding more and more consequences

• Trying to embarrass the student or put them down

• Not following through with consequences or being inconsistent

• Letting the struggle go on way too long

• Crowd the student

• Get annoyed at every little thing they do wrong…always focus on the big battle.



Things you can do to make it better:

• Use a calm neutral voice no matter what

• Give clear directions to the student

• Discuss things briefly

• Making sure to listen to the student and consider what they are saying

• Have clear boundaries and predetermined consequences for problem behavior

• Remove yourself from the interaction if you cannot keep it together

• Analyze the power struggles you have been hooked into…what hooked you?

• Give them praise briefly and discreetly as you walk around or a quick whisper in the ear when they are on task (do not draw attention)

• Write some good comments on their notes.

• Give them leadership role; make your oppositional child a helper and leader. They usually have a strong need for control, helping them find ways to channel that need can be a great strategy to help them gain sort of self worth BUT, make sure they are closely and appropriately supervised.

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Take a minute and reflect on the last one you had.
 How did you try to control the situation?
 What happened?
What was the outcome?





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Comments

  1. Emjay25 February 2019 at 06:22

    Nice1.

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  2. F826 February 2019 at 06:17

    He chopping beat bits by bits everyday in class. Till he haff sense

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    1. OMODAMWEN EHIZOGIE27 February 2019 at 02:00

      Beating a child is corporal punishment and its prohibited in EdoBEST!

      Delete
  3. QueenBlaq.26 February 2019 at 08:03

    Mutual respect is another key factor in cubbing such an occurrence....
    No one is too small to be respected....if you show some level of respect to your pupils/students.....be 50% sure you'll be given respect in return.

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  4. Godsown4Life26 May 2019 at 08:54

    You nailed it, jor

    ReplyDelete

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